"Tired of the game? Kiss dating goodbye. Dating. Isn't there a better way? I kissed dating goodbye suggests there is. Reorder your romantic life in the light of God's Word and find more fulfillment than a date could ever give--a life of sincere love, true purity, and purposeful singleness."
Joshua Harris really did such a great job on this book--I've read it about 3-4 times, and everytime I do, I'm convicted all over again! When my parents inroduced to me the subject of courship instead of dating, I was lost..I'd never considered any other way! A few months later, I came across this book, and couldn't put it down! He's dated before, and knows what it's like to be hurt or unintentionally hurt someone else. An amazing fact was that he wasn't raised with the concept of Courtship, so if it's a completely new way of thinking for the reader, he goes through matter-of-fact/ question & anwer type of situations that speak clearly. Scripture is used profusely throughout the book, which was extremely useful! Joshua also told experiences and stories of friends or family members who regretted ever being in dating relationships--And in contrast, success stories of close friends who guarded their hearts and got to know one another God's Way, with the intent of marriage! One of the key points Joshua made in his book was "The seven habits of highly defective dating".
1. Dating leads to intamacy but not neccesarily to commitment
2. Dating tends to skip the 'friendship' stage of a relationship
3. Dating often mistakes a physical relationship for love
4. Dating often isolates a couple from other vital relationships
5. Dating, in many cases, distracts young adults from their primary responsibility for preparing for the future!
6. Dating can cause discontentment with God's gift of singleness
7. Dating creates an artificial environment for evaluationg another persons character
Doesn't that just EXPOSE the sugar coated way most people think regarding casual dating?!
In conclusion, I'll quote one of my favorite lines in the book:
"Set your standards too high. You will never regret purity."