Wednesday, April 16, 2008

Book Review: I Kissed Dating Goodbye

I Kissed Dating Goodbye
by: Joshua Harris
"Tired of the game? Kiss dating goodbye. Dating. Isn't there a better way? I kissed dating goodbye suggests there is. Reorder your romantic life in the light of God's Word and find more fulfillment than a date could ever give--a life of sincere love, true purity, and purposeful singleness."
My Review:
Joshua Harris really did such a great job on this book--I've read it about 3-4 times, and everytime I do, I'm convicted all over again! When my parents inroduced to me the subject of courship instead of dating, I was lost..I'd never considered any other way! A few months later, I came across this book, and couldn't put it down! He's dated before, and knows what it's like to be hurt or unintentionally hurt someone else. An amazing fact was that he wasn't raised with the concept of Courtship, so if it's a completely new way of thinking for the reader, he goes through matter-of-fact/ question & anwer type of situations that speak clearly. Scripture is used profusely throughout the book, which was extremely useful! Joshua also told experiences and stories of friends or family members who regretted ever being in dating relationships--And in contrast, success stories of close friends who guarded their hearts and got to know one another God's Way, with the intent of marriage! One of the key points Joshua made in his book was "The seven habits of highly defective dating".
1. Dating leads to intamacy but not neccesarily to commitment
2. Dating tends to skip the 'friendship' stage of a relationship
3. Dating often mistakes a physical relationship for love
4. Dating often isolates a couple from other vital relationships
5. Dating, in many cases, distracts young adults from their primary responsibility for preparing for the future!
6. Dating can cause discontentment with God's gift of singleness
7. Dating creates an artificial environment for evaluationg another persons character
Doesn't that just EXPOSE the sugar coated way most people think regarding casual dating?!
In conclusion, I'll quote one of my favorite lines in the book:
"Set your standards too high. You will never regret purity."

3 comments: said...

I found your blog. It looks great!! Wonderful book review. Thank you for being a good example to all the younger girls around you. Many look up to you. I am proud to call you friend. Keep up the good work!
Keep looking up.

Mrs. Dar

Paul Sr. said...

Hey Miss Mia,
While at the T4G conference this week I was worshiping & noticed a rather smallish bald young man with his hands outsttched in worship next to me. He sort of looked familiar somehow. I looked down at his nametag...Joshua Harris. He is a great guy in person too. Thought you'd like to hear that.
By the way, I have his book on audio cd if you ever want to borrow it.
Great blog...keep it up!
Pastor Paul

V said...

Hey Mia,

I love to borrow this book if you can spare it for a few weeks?

Mrs. Vicki