Tuesday, March 3, 2009

A question on Marriage

"Dear Mia,I haven't been keeping up with your blog but I just found it by chance and I have a few questions, if you don't mind. I'm also a Christian, and I don't necessarily believe all woman should be married young, do you think they should or just if they find the right person young, they shouldn't wait? Also do you think that a woman's only job is to be a wife and mother? Or do you think she can have a career. Please do not take my questions as being disrespectful, I'm only curious." *Miss Ellie
Thank you for your questions, Ellie! I think the best way to answer this is to share what I'm doing, because of different circumstances, not every one's situation is the same.
*I'm choosing to stay at home and my primary job (after marriage) will be wife & mother.
I think it would be wise to make an income (from the home) using homemaking skills; such as sewing, selling soap/eggs/cheese, or canned goods.
*Selling homemade/handmade goods isn't necessary, but if the opportunity is there,
that's what I'll hopefully be able to do.
*Getting married young isn't a rule, but I find it extremely practical.
I pray I will marry young so that I can work alongside (my future husband) while I'm strong and able to work hard & diligently, whatever our situation may be!
~'Career' means: n. A chosen pursuit; a profession or occupation. The general course or progression of one's working life or one's professional.

~So my personal/chosen career will be 'Homemaker'
(Gardener, cook, help meet, child-care, teacher, seamstress etc)


Jenna said...

Those are good questions Miss Ellie; and I completely agree with your answer Mia:)
My "career" choice is definitly to be a stay-at-home-mother and wife...however, this is where God has me and for someone else, He may have given them a differant mission...do you know what I mean? I feel like a womans highest calling is to be a wife and mother - God has blessed us with these instincts...but if the Lord calls you somewhere else, then by all means, GO!!!

Your sister in Christ,

Robin said...

I was just browsing through blogs today I ran across yours. I just had to say it is beautiful. I love you photographs too! As for the resent post of marrying young. I think if God is in it it will work out at any age. I personally married at 19. We will be married for 16 years this November and have built a lovely homestead and family side by side. You sound like a girl with a great head n your shoulders. Your parents, I am sure, are very proud...and rightly so!

Emily said...

Wonderful answers to the question! :)

Anonymous said...

I think that differs for everybody. Like you stated, it depends on your situations and circumstances. I'm single and 25, a teacher and I find my life extremely fulfilling. But I come from a big family and when I'm not surrounded by students, I'm around my nieces and nephews. I sew most of my own cloths year round and live in a setting where we eat three home-cooked meals a day. Personally, I'm getting a healthy dose of both worlds!

I hope to marry someday. I've never had an offer!! If that ever happens I'll close the door to my teaching career and embrace being a homemarker with all my heart.

Love this place! One of my favorite internet spots!

A family at our Wits End... said...

Do your parents have a blog?

I am a Christian mama to a daughter and we have a second child on the way this summer. I would love some insight into how your parents have chosen to parent you. You seem so wise beyond your years and many of the conclusions you have come to eluded me until at least my mid 20s!

Praise the Lord for your Godly heritage!

Tracy said...

Mia, I'm just so impressed with your blog. You are so articulate and well-spoken and wise for your age! God has indeed blessed you.

Meredith Ivy said...

You gave very wise answers, Mia!

Jessica said...

Those were some great questions!

I personally don't think it matters what age you get married. I think that God has individual plans for each person. Some may get married younger, and some older. I think it also has to do with the maturity level. I personally know that I am not yet ready for such a big step as marriage right now. Although I want to in the future, I can tell that I still have things to learn and my relationship with God needs to be strengthened before I would feel ready.
Marriage is very serious and shouldn't be taken lightly, so, I think it all depends on the person. Though, Like Mia said, I think I would want to get married younger because then I could be more of a help to my husband and family. Though, in my mind, younger would be around the mid twenty's. LOL! I am almost twenty now. It's definitely something I feel called by God to do. I want to be a stay at home mom and wife. I just think I need a few more years.
Like I said, it differs with each person, some are ready sooner than others.

God bless!

Cherishing Young Biblical Womanhood said...

I found your blog a couple of days ago. What a beautiful blog and I love your heart to want to learn as much as you can before you are married, if the Lord calls you to that. It is also refreshing to see a young african-american homeschooled young lady desire the simple and plain life.

Anonymous said...

Mis Mia, you are such a drink of resh water on this parched earth! You have a good grasp of God-given common sense, the Lord will surely honor that. Your parents cetainly seemed to have raised a Godly young woman. Please keep up with your blog, you encourage so many, even this ol' gal!! Thank you and God Bless!
P.S. LOVE your dress :)

Brittany said...

Mia, I agree with your answer. But if I may point out: I personally don't think there is anything wrong with a young lady furthering her education (college). Even if it is at a community college or a Christian college. For me, it doesn't matter, especially if you are not living on campus. For instance, if I go back to school I'm going to go for Early CHildhood Education. It is something I can use now, or later on. I plan on staying at home especially when I have children because I am going to homeschool. But it would help for simple daycare, or even if we open a Christian school, or work in one later on.

Just a couple of little thoughts :)

As always,

Ellie B... said...

Thank you so much for answering my questions Mia, and being so very patient. Unfortunately that is a virtue I often lack. I understand your thought process much better now. I hope that you are able to be married young and are able to be the homemaker you want to be. You seem like a wonderful person with such a gentle nature, I know you'll be great at it! Thank you again I'll keep you in my prayers.
May you live joyfully in Christ,

P.S. be watching for more questions I'm bound to have. I tend to have a very curious nature:)

Anonymous said...

Hi Mia,
This is my first visit to your blog. What beauty, grace and joy! Thank you!

McKenzie Elizabeth said...

Hi Mia!
I enjoyed reading! You gave a wonderful answer to a good question.

Love you,
McKenzie Elizabeth

Anonymous said...

Hi Mia, wanted to say I am really enjoying your blog. You are an inspiration and will continue to read and enjoy your journey to womanhood.
Have a blessed Sabbath

Christina said...

It's a small world after all...I was reading this morning at Deliberate Agrarian-which I've been reading for a couple of years now, and he featured your blog.

I just had to stop over and say hello. Ya'll are doing a great job on the homestead-looks great! I love your pictures you have an eye for beauty.


dukygurl said...

From a stay at home wife, and mother...
you are an amazing girl! I hope to raise my daughters with the cheer you have about life. I admire the character you already possess it has been a hard lesson for me, growing up with out example of thankfulness and really struggeling through becoming a stay home mom!
God bless you!

. said...

Thre's no better career in all the world. I hope so much God will help you to find the right man. You will be a very good wife, as I can see.


Esther in VT said...

I was lead to your blog by another. I am fairly new to this growing medium. Being a Christian, I feel the womans place is to live out her reason for creation. I am a "help meet" to my husband, a mother to my children, and a keeper of our home. I applaud your aspirations in becoming a women after God's own heart. I am very touched by your writings, and hope that my own daughters learn to embrace their life, the way the Lord made them.

photogirl said...

Hi Mia! I just chanced upon your blog, and even though I'm way late to be commenting on this post, I wanted to let you know that I'm so encouraged by your convictions! Mine are the same, and as it is getting harder to find a godly young woman with the right priorities, I was so glad to read what you had to say.

Thanks for standing for what's right!