Thursday, February 11, 2010

Encouragement for a Mother and her daughter...

I've had many SAHM's email me regarding advice on training their daughters up to desire to be homemakers. Naturally, I direct these questions to my Mother, and we both thought it would be nice to share a bit of what she has learned over the years.
"I am a stay at home mom having to learn as I go and don't want my daughter to have to go through the same. She is very young for it right now....but I wanted to be able to try start her training as early as possible. I also want to see if there is anything that will help me in learning to be a better homemaker as I want her to see me doing these things and not just telling her this is how it is to be done. Anything you can tell me would be greatly appreciated." Mrs. W.
My Mother's Advice:

Dear Mrs. W,
The most important aspect is having conviction about your role as wife and mother, and sharing that with your daughter, and it certainly sounds like you do! I believe doing household chores such as cooking, baking, and cleaning along with establishing a routine provides good training in homemaking skills.

Make your home a place where you love to be and fill your home with things that are spiritually/physically nurturing, such as Beautiful artwork, books, poetry, healthy foods.
Serving Together

Make meals special, serving when a family member is sick, visiting neighbors for encouragement, practicing hospitality, sending pretty cards.

Inviting Spontaneity

Lay under the stars, dance to beautiful music, paint/draw outside, picnic in the front yard, enjoy all around your home.

Start a small plot of vegetables....

The way you can start to implement this is to find joy, peace and contentment...where you are.

No matter what your home circumstances; try finding a quiet spot-- sit down and read to your child. Find a beautiful, inspiring picture book, and enjoy that time with her. Listen to her, play with her, and encourage her.

I long to accomplish great and noble tasks, but it is my chief duty and joy to accomplish humble tasks as though they were great and noble. ~Helen Keller


Rhonda said...

Hello Mia!
Oh my this is a lovely post! I needed to read this today! As I am going to make it my "Life Lesson" meaning, I am going to do what your mother advised with my two young daughters.

First thing I am going to do is stop complaining about living in this 900 sq. ft. cottage. Stop calling it my "ugly duckling" and I am going to turn it into my "beautiful swan", and love where we live from on on!
Please thank your lovely mother for opening up my eyes today with your lovely blog, and thank-you too Miss Mia! I have been waiting to see what you were going to blog about this week.

Mia said...

Dear Ms. Rhonda,
Both my Mother and I read your comment, and it has encouraged us so much!!
Thank you :)


Tracy said...

Mia, thank you so much for sharing your mother's advice with all of us SAHMs! I always look forward to reading your posts and seeiong your photos. :)

Cinnamon said...

What a wonderful encouragement to Mama's everywhere. Send my thanks to your Mama for not only doing a great job in being your Mama but in sharing what the Lord has shown her.

In reading your advice it seems so simple. I mean really..... loving your kids, reading to them, spending time with them. It IS all so simple. But I think as the quote from Helen Keller stated says it so well.....We do all long to be doing something worthwhile (in the world's eyes) exciting, where we see positive feedback NOW but at home is where we belong. Holding those little hands, cleaning the smudges off the mirror AGAIN and washing all their dirty clothes. A dear friend of mine and a Mama of 12 blessings said it so well, she said "I can wash their hands a faces but only the Lord can wash away their sins"

Thank you for sharing~ Cinnamon

Trish said...

I love this post Mia! It's taken me a good long while to learn these lessons also!
Now that I am expecting my first baby boy what role do the ladies in the family play in helping to raise up a confident young boy to be a hardworking and gentle man? Are there specific differences in your family?

Emy said...

Thank you so much for this entry. It was pretty special and inspiring, just lovely really. I feel the same way that the lady who posed the question you answered does. Be blessed!

In Christ-

wendyytb said...

Again, Mia, it is a pleasure to read your posts. You and your family seem to have found the answer to contentment...simple living and servitude.

It is difficult for those of us who grew up in the 60's during a period of unrest, self-interest, fierce feminism and free choice . What you reject, was our norm.

I think we have all learned lessons from this period, and whether we seek simplicity...a return to past values....or a closer relationship with God, It is nice to know that some have found their path and are content. It is also nice to know that you had a choice to make the decisions that you did in following the lifestyle that you chose.

I continue to enjoy your posts and look forward to each and every one of them.

Abigail said...

Thank you for this post!

Anonymous said...

Thank you so much for the post. It really has encouraged me to slow down and just enjoy my kids. I will start trying to do these things with them and look forward to reading and learning more from you. Keep up the good work and God bless you and your family.

Jeanne said...

As usual "Well Said" Such a wonderful way to look at it. My question is for you. Has your Mother always been a SAHM' or has she worked out of the home. I curently work out of the home with most of your lifestyles except HSchooling part. I work publickly and my daughter attends PS. I want so much to make the jump and abandon the corporate world ship but have not as of yet. Still praying about it daily. And to be honest I can not get enough of you blog. You are such a blessing to Mom and girls everwhere. Does your mother blog? She surely should. It would be nice to get her perspective also.

Anonymous said...

On behalf of all the women who read your blog weekly and from the bottom of my heart I thank you and your mom for this wonderful ministry that you have taken upon yourselves to bless us. I truly cannot express how much of a blessing you and your family are, even though I don't know you personally and you don't know me at all. I've changed in so many ways in the last 2 years just because of all the posts you've written. I can't thank you enough. I now have a true sense of contentment and know where to find true Joy...the one that God has longed to give me all along.. not found in "stuff" or in the acceptance of this present society. I'm so happy to now know what my purpose as a woman is and to embrace it so happily. But as another lady asked, please please do post about the raising of sons, as I myself have no daughters either and do long to learn so much more about how to raise my 2 sons in the fear of the Lord. Please know that everything you post will be taken very earnestly and I, in prayer, will try to accomplish it with God's strength as I long to grow and be fruitful. In Christ, Nadine
PS-It would be so nice to hear more often from your mom as we did this time! Not many of us have such great mentors as you and we thank you for sharing her with us!

Maries Cottage said...

This was so very encouraging, your blog is one of beauty and grace!

Anonymous said...

I really appriciate your blog. It is so incouraging to know that I am not alone in my thinking and my lifestyle. I am unfortunatly having to learn most of this on my own, but its a blessing in its own way because it is a kind of adventure. I will keep yall in my prayers and I pray that God will bless you and your family. Keep up the good work. Missa

in a world of my own said...

This is a great post - all people, regardless of whether they want to be a homemaker or not, could use the ideas in this post!

Regan Family Farm said...

Dear Mia,
Please pass on a "thank you" and hug to your momma for reminding us of so much good, and my favorite...spontaneity. That is one area I fail in often because of the "pressure" to accomplish, produce, or just plain get-it-done.
Blessings to you~

Erin J said...

Thanks so much for you and your mother for posting this. It was a real encouragement to me to set an example for my daughter. The advice was practical and straight to the point. Bless you!

Samantha said...

Would you mind if I printed this off and saved it? I'm sure it will be a great treasure for me in future years.

Suzanne said...

Your mother is a wise woman indeed. I have done this with my four daughters and can attest they love their home life and treasure it. It is about relationships:-)

myletterstoemily said...

what a precious, inspiring post.

while you are preparing to be a homemaker,
i will pray that the Lord will prepare a man
after His own heart to love her.

Anonymous said...

Dear Miss Mia,

Please pass on a heartfelt thank you to your dear mother!

It shows that your mother is filled with the Lord's peace and joy.

I have a little girl that will never be a homemaker due to her disability but I know that she enjoys watching her mami clean, cook, and garden around her.

I also have two sons that are learning on how godly womanhood is all about just by being around me.

My husband and I have instilled in them a joy for the Lord in all aspects of our life.

Thank you dear Mia, for sharing your family and your thoughts.

Many blessings to you and your dear family,

Mrs. S

HsAgape said...

How wonderful to see that women are concern with raising their daughters to love the home and to minister to those who live in them.
Thank you for you gracious advice, and teaching them as Titus 2:4-5 Woman.

In His love- Delia

Blessedmom's Simple Home said...

A wonderful post sharing your mother's advice. Maybe she'll start her own blog too. I'm sure all of your followers would love to hear from her from time to time.

Mrs. L said...

What a lovely, inspiring post! I love your blog.

Anonymous said...

This is a lovely post, Mia. Thanks for sharing. It is so encouraging to read your blog and your comments from likeminded people. I am a relatively new wife (no children yet), and I have only recently been convicted in this area. Although I've spent most of my life in school and will complete my PhD in a year or so, my heart longs to be a homemaker, and I know that is my true purpose. I did have a paying job, but I was laid off 6 months ago. Although it has put us in a very tight financial situation, I feel like it was a work of God to bring me home. My mother (the one who I would want to go to for support) is very much against the idea of me being a homemaker and has said some hurtful things regarding the idea of being "home" versus me having a paying job. I am having a very hard time trying to be at peace about this--I don't know for sure that God desires for me to be at home and I don't know why I have been afforded the opportunity to attain such a level of education, and it's so hard trying to be at peace about what my heart feels when I do not have the support of the one who I should be looking to for it. Any advice or words of encouragement?

Tiff :o) said...

I just found your blog through Pinterest. I love old fashioned living and am trying to incorporate it into my own life as well. You have beautiful pictures and your homemaking skills are impressive for someone so young. I am sad to say my mom only taught me how to clean and cook from a box/can. I have come a long way since when I first got married. This year, I have my first garden! I will definitely be following your blog!

Oh, and your clothes are impressive! They would be my wardrobe as well if I knew how to sew so beautifully!! Edwardian clothes are my favorites! You are a very talented lady! I must learn to sew as well as you now!

Tiff :o)

Anonymous said...

you have a photo of a mother, he rdaughters and HER dead son from turn of century 1900. Sort of weird.